According to the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale, divorce is the second highest stressor for humans, second only to the death of a spouse.

Your lawyer is an important part of your divorce team and can help alleviate stress if you have one who works well with you to achieve your goals.

Through my own experience I saw how my lawyer was a reflection of myself.

My first one, which was a recommendation from a friend, was timid and uncertain. This was how I felt as I first separated.

I found my second one by searching “bulldog attorney” in a local mom’s group. He lasted about a month as I felt he was more aggressive in a way that felt like it would incite conflict vs resolve it.

My third was “just right” and had a great combination of strategy and strength. We worked well together.

The right lawyer won’t just create paperwork, they will help you to put a stop to post-separation abuse, defamation, and overall crazy-making.

The wrong lawyer? That lawyer will cower, people please, ignore your priorities and possibly even put you on the path to devastation.